Talking about tricky things

talking communicating your partner sad anxious angryTalking about tricky things can be difficult – its often hard to find the words to talk about painful and negative thoughts. Encourage your partner to talk honestly about whatever they are struggling with. Be careful not to dismiss concerns when providing reassurance, e.g., rather than saying something isn’t a problem say something like:

“I will be here to help you with that”

“I can see that is really worrying you but I think we can get through that”

You may not want to ‘burden’ each other with your feelings. But do not bottle-up your feelings as this makes it more likely they’ll come out the wrong way, such as during an argument. Voice your needs directly rather than thinking that your partner can read your mind.

Hiding your thoughts and feelings may cause your partner to feel shut out.

Professional assistance is available if you need help with communicating effectively (e.g., a couples therapist or a psychologist).

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Last reviewed 24 April 2016